Fred Thompson and his family.
We Support Military Families
to our ministry to military families. It's here that you'll find resources for your family. If you're a leader in a church, you'll also find ideas for enhancing ministry to military families through your church.
It's our desire to provide
a place for parents to learn and grow. My name is Fred Thompson and I have a commitment to equip military families through the
National Center for Biblical Parenting. Learn more about
I have two sons in the military and I recognize the personal challenges they face as do the spouses that are often raising children under unusual circumstances. It’s hard enough to raise a child with
two parents both present continually. As a military parent you
have additional challenges because you’re either separated from your kids during deployment or your spouse is gone for long stretches of time, leaving you with most of the parenting responsibilities day to day. You need as many strategies as you can get
in order to maximize your family dynamic.
Dr. Scott Turansky with his
Marine son, Ben.
It's my privilege to work with Dr. Scott Turansky who also has a son in the military. He knows the challenges that his son and daughter-in-law face raising their child. Dr. Turansky also has a commitment to support military families.
Here are some
suggestions that might help you as you continue on your
Honor, A Core Value. One of the core values of the military is honor. Those in the service of our country understand honor of our country and practically what that looks like day to day within their service. But honor is also crucial for family life. Honor provides
a working relationship between parents and their children.
You can learn more about how to develop honor in your
family by reading the book Say
Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes, in
You and Your Kids or listen to the CDs by
the same title. Honor changes people and kids who learn honor at home are strengthened for their future, no matter what they choose as an occupation or vocation.
2) Find A Good Church. A spiritual community is very helpful for you and your family. You probably already receive significant help from the military community and that's strategic. As you develop your own support system for yourself and your kids, a church is immensely valuable as well. In fact, God calls the church "a family" in the Bible because the close support and relationships that spiritual community creates.
3) Employ Good Discipline Strategies.
Parents need tools to address
the ever-changing challenges of family life. To set a
foundation of good relational routines,
we suggest you work through the Heart
Work Training Manuals and CDs. This set of eight lessons provide you with practical
solutions for helping children learn to follow instructions,
receive correction, deal with attitudes, accept no as
an answer, understand repentance, and help you connect
on a heart level. One of the workbooks (Training
Manual #4) provides you with seven categories of consequences
to use with your children. Most importantly, that lesson
shows you how to use those consequences to help your
child grow toward maturity using a heart-based approach. Your
child is at point A on the map and needs to get to point
B by developing a particular heart quality. This lesson
teaches you how to use consequences to move your child
along the path to point B.
The book Good
and Angry, Exchanging Frustration for Character in
You and Your Kids identifies seven things
that make parents angry. These are things like, “My kids
don’t listen or follow instructions,” “They keep doing
the wrong thing and nothing seems to help,” “They lie,”
“They’re annoying,” “They won’t accept no for an answer,”
and “They always grumble and complain.” We then provide
specific solutions for these common problems. This practical
book helps reduce anger by giving you plans to address
the problems you face. We know that parents who don’t have
good plans use anger to solve problems so we’ve given you
the parenting strategies that will work.
4) Don't Miss Spiritual Training.
The language of children is activity. When you use activities
to teach your children biblical truth, you’re following
what Christ modeled when he taught his disciples. He
took common, easy to understand objects and stories and
used them to teach his disciples about the kingdom. You
can do the same thing by using activities and object
lessons that capture a child’s attention. We’ve put together
several books to help you. The Family
Time Activities books give you fun activities together with Bible stories
to teach spiritual truths to your children. You may download
a sample activity here. There are six books altogether,
three for children of all ages, two for families with
preschoolers, and one for families with teenagers.
Get motivated to develop a Family Time in
your home by listening to the author of these books, Kirk
Weaver, teach about Fun
and Effective Spiritual Training. Or, listen to Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN,
BSN teach a similar session entitled, Having
Fun Teaching Spiritual Truths. Also, Rob Rienow’s CD God’s
Grand Vision for the Home will inspire you to be the primary spiritual
trainer of your own children. This one area of parenting
is foundational and has ramifications for everything else
you do as a parent.
We are here to help parents and churches. Please feel free to reach out to me personally if I can be of assistance to you and your family. My email address is Fred@biblicalparenting.org. Also, if you are a church leader developing a ministry to support military families, please contact me, I have several ideas that can maximize your strategy.