You can use the Family Toolbox in your home or your church. Parents love to discuss biblical truths in practical ways as they apply to the family. The videos give a visual example and then discussion grows as parent and teens talk about solutions. The leader’s guide keeps the discussion going.
• Eight 2-minute video clips that engage parents and teens in real life situations
• Eight 9-10 minute video segments for parents with teaching by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN
• Eight Workbook Lessons that contain discussion questions and worksheets
Family Drama: Jamaal has a lot of potential to do well at school, but he just isn’t motivated to get his work done. His grandma can’t believe that he’s failing. He did so well last semester when she motivatd him with an MP3 player. Now he’s not motivated again. She’s frustrated. He wants another reward. Grandma feels like she’s playing Let’s Make a Deal continually to get her grandson to do anything.
Question: How can I effectively help my child mature and develop?
Answer: Focus on the heart
For Discussion with Your Teen
Life Success Principle #1: Be Respectful Even When It’s Hard.
Life Success Principle #2: Develop Internal Motivation.
Family Drama: Rudy has a hard time following instructions without hearing it over and over from his mom. Mom is frustrated because her son doesn’t listen to her until she raises her voice. Of course, Mom has other things to do in life such as help Marisol fix her broken doll. The situation escalates as Mom resorts to yelling at Rudy to get him to put away the laundry.
Question: How do I get my kids to listen when I tell them to do something?
Answer: Tighten your action point to clarify expectations
For Discussion with Your Teen
Life Success Principle #3: Develop Healthy Habits for Following Instructions.
Life Success Principle #4: Look for Ways to Contribute to Family Life.
Family Drama: It’s morning and Mom is trying to get everyone out of the house to get to school so that she can get to work. Merilee is stressed because she can’t find her report for school. Mark is moving slowly because it’s morning and Madison is not helping at all. Mom can’t find her keys. All of this sets the stage for an intense beginning to the day.
Question: How can I reduce conflict and still get things done?
Answer: Turn problems into tasks instead of escalating them into conflict
For Discussion with Your Teen
Life Success Principle #5: Solve Problems Instead of Generating Conflict.
Life Success Principle #6: Instead of Sarcasm Develop the Skills of a Peacemaker.
Family Drama: Jarrod is being disciplined by having to stay in his room, but he’s hungry and wants to eat dinner. Grandma is frustrated with Jarod and tries to be firm with the discipline. Jamaal is not helping matters with his intruding comments and sarcastic remarks, and Dad has no time to deal with the situation. The interaction illustrates the need for some kind of plan for ending discipline situations in a better way.
Question: How can I maximize correction so that my kids change?
Answer: Use a Positive Conclusion to process offenses
For Discussion with Your Teen
Life Success Principle #7: Learn to Value Correction.
Life Success Principle #8: Apologize Well.
Family Drama: Jamaal needs to be disciplined. He continually forgets to take out the garbage. Dad is fed up with it. He wants things to change and now. Typically Dad takes away privileges from Jamaal to motivate him to change. In this case, Dad decides to take Jamaal’s cell phone away. Things escalate as Jamaal and Dad argue over how long a cell phone should be taken away because he forgot to take out the trash.
Question: What consequences can I use to get my kids to change?
Answer: Add non-confrontational correction to your toolbox
For Discussion with Your Teen
Life Success Principle #9: Develop a Plan for Being Responsible.
Life Success Principle #10: Take Responsibility for Your Mistakes.
Family Drama: Madison is eager to go out to be with her friends. Mom is concerned that Madison will make a poor decision and go to an unacceptable movie like she did last time. Mom is setting some tight limits on Madison while Merilee and Mark, her siblings, chirp in with unhelpful comments. In the end, Madison has a difficult time accepting no as an answer and erupts with hurtful words toward her mom.
Question: How can I get my child to accept no as an answer?
Answer: Move from the issue to the process
For Discussion with Your Teen
Life Success Principle #11: Train Yourself to Accept No as an Answer.
Life Success Principle #12: Avoid Arguing.
Family Drama: Dad gets another shift at work and asks Rudy to watch Marisol. Rudy reacts with anger because he doesn’t want to be bothered by the task. As Rudy gets angry, Dad increases his intensity. They both escalate into rage.
Question: How can I break the cycle of anger in our family relationships?
Answer: Pull back instead of push forward when things get intense.
For Discussion with Your Teen
Life Success Principle #13: View Your Family as a Team and Look for Ways to Work Together.
Life Success Principle #14: Learn Self-Control to Manage Anger.
Family Drama: As Mom arrives home with dinner. She wants to get the table set and food out so that they can eat. It’s a busy few minutes but Rudy is just thinking about himself, unwilling to be a part of the interaction. In fact, this is a pattern for Rudy. He tends to be self-focused and seems to drain energy from family life. Dad and Mom are tired of it but Rudy doesn’t seem willing to make changes. Thus the standoff continues.
Question: How can I get my kids to contribute to our family instead of just draining it?
Answer: Teach them how to take initiative using the concept of honor.
For Discussion with Your Teen
Life Success Principle #15: Practice Flexibility When Plans Change.
Life Success Principle #16: Learn to Handle Unfairness Well.
The Church Program is designed for use with parents or teens or both in a small group setting. The package includes the Home Program plus a Leader’s Guide for use in parent training. You also gain the rights to duplicate the materials for home and church use. The teaching in the church program and the home program is the same, but the church program contains more pieces and a broader license agreement.
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The Home Program is designed for parents and teens to interact together about 16 Life Success Principles. Eight video scenes depict families in conflict and then discussion questions and worksheets encourage families to talk through solutions. The program is designed for parents and children ten years old and up. Each session with your young person can take as little as five minutes but often generates conversations that last much longer. Additional training videos are included for parents.
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