Keep in mind that training goes much further than correction when bringing about change in a child’s heart. That doesn’t mean that correction isn’t important. But it does put a heavier emphasis on training a child to develop life-skills. Every child needs training and we’ve developed several specific training exercises in the Heart Work Training Manual with 8 Audio Sessions.
This set of eight lessons provide you with practical solutions for helping children learn to follow instructions, receive correction, deal with attitudes, accept no as an answer, understand repentance, and help you connect on a heart level. One of the chapters in that Training Manual provides you with seven categories of consequences to use with your children. Most importantly, that lesson shows you how to use those consequences to help your child grow toward maturity using a map-mentality. Your child is at point A on the map and needs to get to point B by developing a particular heart quality. This lesson teaches you how to use consequences to move your child along the path to point B.
We have two family video training programs you’ll find helpful at this age. The Thrive! Family Program has 12 lessons focused on the heart, what it is and how important it is for your child to understand. Each lesson contains a 15 minute video for parents and young people. Dr. Turansky and Mrs. Miller speak directly to young people for a portion of each video. Discussion questions help you draw out the truths taught. A family activity is suggested to drive the truths home in fun ways.
The second video training program is called the Family Toolbox. It contains 8 lessons, each one showing a family in action, challenged by a common problem in family life. After you and your child watch the video you can continue to hear Dr. Turansky and Mrs. Miller teach practical lessons from family life to help you in common areas. This series is excellent for enhancing communication with your child and talking about tension that exists in many homes.
The book Good and Angry, Exchanging Frustration for Character in You and Your Kids identifies seven things that make parents angry. These are things like, “My kids don’t listen or follow instructions,” “They keep doing the wrong thing and nothing seems to help,” “They lie,” “They’re annoying,” “They won’t accept no for an answer,” and “They always grumble and complain.” We then provide specific solutions for these common problems. This practical book helps reduce anger by giving you plans to address the problems you face. We know that parents who don’t have good plans use anger to solve problems so we’ve given you the parenting strategies that will work.