Parenting During the Elementary Years

elementaryDuring the ages of 6 to 12, children change in significant ways. Their thinking patterns and mental abilities go through major developments. Personality, character, and a worldview are being formed and molded for the long term.

We have two books to walk you through these stages. Elementary Foundations is the book featured at the bottom of this page. It gives insights and strategies for parenting the 5-8 year old. Cultivating Responsibilty is the handbook for parenting the older elementary child. In particular, you might like Chapter 7 that outlines 12 Tasks Of Responsibility for this age. Your child can use it as a self-report card producing some awareness of the importance of responsibility in these areas.

Developing responsibility and wisdom are two significant priorities at this stage. In addition to these two qualities, children often demonstrate heart quality strengths that you’ll want to encourage. Unfortunately, some of those strengths can be misused, requiring the need to develop additional heart qualities to balance things out.

For example, Jennifer, age eight, is easy-going, laid back, and tolerant. Those are great qualities that help her remain calm with her brother, comply with Mom’s requests, and make transitions easily in family life. However, Jennifer is also quite tolerant of messes, doesn’t take initiative to do chores without being prodded, and isn’t doing her best at school. Jennifer has some great heart qualities but needs additional ones such as thoroughness, thoughtfulness, and attention to detail in order to be most effective.

This is a great developmental stage to help kids develop internal motivation. If you’re having to tell your kids over and over again to do the same things, then there are a whole new toolbox of parenting strategies that can transfer the responsibility to the child. This is the focus of the book Motivate Your Child.

Furthermore, if you’re seeing a particular challenge in your child that makes you feel uncomfortable, then you’ll want to develop a plan now to address it. The book Motivate Your Child Action Plan is designed to help you develop that individualized plan. It comes with 12 audio sessions as well as tips for how to present the changes to your child and establish accountability.

Chapter 8 in the book Home Improvement, The Parenting Book You Can Read to Your Kids contains a list of several heart qualities along with the ways those qualities can be over-emphasized and misused. This chapter also gives you a six-step plan to address some of the more deeply rooted problems children experience, helping you develop a positive approach to overcoming these weaknesses. Eight different parenting problems are addressed in the Home Improvement book, with each chapter containing a fictional story about a family that realizes they have a problem in family life and then discover a solution to overcome it. The rest of the chapter teaches you how to apply those solutions to your family. The eight audio session series entitled, Eight Secrets to Highly Effective Parenting provides you with the teaching of Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN to guide you through these same eight family essentials.

We have a lot of resources to help you work with your child between the ages of 6 and 12 years. This page will guide you through the many resources we offer so you can find the best ones to suit your needs.